Weak

I’m attempting to be more consistent in my life. In other words, I’m being consistent in every aspect of my life except the most important one. Pray for me to defeat procrastination and get back on my grind, but any who here’s another blog!

Please read this piece to “Weak” by Flo Milli. I don’t think most understand her greatness. Bad bitch music is only for the elite, sorry to those who can’t comprehend. Sis is putting on for the stick skinny girls and she’s from a southern state that isn’t Florida or Texas- I STAN. Go Flo, you’re up next sis, I feel it!

*Note that “dm” can be used interchangeable with the word text.

I think I’m broken. I’m turned off by every young man currently. No one is attractive to me. Everyone is just corny. Lame. Irritating. I get upset when I get a dm. Like seriously, I will get pissed off.

It’s no effort. Heart Eyes. Then when I’m polite and say “Thanks”, all I want is no reply. “Thanks” is curt. You should get what I’m trying to say, it isn’t inviting like “Thank You”. We’re done, you don’t need to say anything. But of course, here comes the “No problem. How are you?” “You’re so fine” “So why are you single?”

Why am I single? Because I’m mean as fuck. I’m really trying not to cuss you out right now because this approach is weak as hell.

The audacity. Why are young men this bold? They literally have the confidence of……. I have no idea, but it’s a level of confidence that defies all logic.

Are yall at the part where Flo says, “these niggas weak, ew!” Because absolutely sis! A lyrical goddess with that line.

I never understood those girls who would put “My dms are closed” in their bios and captions. I thought it was tacky and boastful. “No one is dm’ing you girl”, I would think, but now I understand. These women were tired of the weak antics!

Genuinely stop.

Let me categorize a few of the young men who may currently be in your dms.

The DM Weaklings:

The Weird One- This young man ALWAYS dms you. He’s probably been doing it for years and its so annoying that you’ve considered blocking him. If you’re like me, then you don’t just like blocking anyone, especially for a reason like “too many compliments”, but he’s so damn annoying. I do not want you, please stop constantly talking to me.

*It should also be noted that these dms never have any substance. They’re usually one emoji (usually the same emoji) or always a phrase that gets repeated often like “Be mine”. Now typically these young men do not reply after you like the message or say “Thanks”, they just never get the hint that you don’t want to be bothered and its an endless hole of dms with them.

The Thirsty One- This young man clearly only wants sex. Its Instagram, not Tinder, please leave me alone before I spazz. Their messages are always sexual from the word choice to the emoji choice. These young men usually do get blocked. They have no aspirations to date you or learn more about you. They see your body and act like dogs in heat. Its shameful honestly and a think piece could explain how they contribute to rape culture, but no one wants to hear that their homeboy could be capable of rape and makes girls uncomfortable when he dms them right?

No Ambition- Definition of WEAK. This young man “claims” he wants you so bad. Wants you to be his girlfriend, wants to see you etc., yet he NEVER has any plans. If you want to take me out, then plan something. He has no ambition to step up. This young man can also be the young man without a job or any career aspirations. They simply do not move forward. They are content with being stagnant. Nothing grinds my gears more than someone with no ambition. No hopes. No dreams. This is actual bum behavior. You don’t have to work on wall street, but at least have some life goals. Plan a date. Attempt to court me OR, because this seems to be an option that they never consider: Just leave me alone.

Such a concept!

No Game- This young man is fairly sweet, he’s just extremely boring. He has zero game. Yet he still mustered up the courage to slide in your dms. How? Like I said the confidence levels are unexplainable. He’s usually corny and the conversation is very cringe-worthy. He seems like he’s never interacted with girls before. Not to be rude, but you aren’t in his league and he somehow thinks that you are. Just no game at all. Like a car wreck. The messages are a terrible sight to see and you feel sorry for all the parties involved. Yikes.

Just Plain Bold- This nigga (can’t even say young man, because the nigga antics are astronomical) is the one who I find to be the most disrespectful. This nigga usually already has a girlfriend, recently broke up with his girlfriend (as in yesterday or the week before, heal nigga damn, I can tell you aren’t shit), or the boldest to me: he already has a baby or multiple children. I find him to be disrespectful because he doesn’t see value in me to know I am not in his league. I will not, correction: I will never, be a side chick. Why even look at me and see that in me? You have disrespected me beyond comprehension because I have no idea why you would consider me to be that low. I will not put up with ex drama. Do not even put me in that position.

And this one is the worst to me. I will not be a stepmother at 23. I have a dozen or so more countries to visit before I turn 30. I have extensive career moves to make. I also have physical interstate moves to make. As Michael Jordan said, “fuck those kids.” If I did not create and birth these children, do not put me in a position to care for them.

I love kids, don’t get me wrong. I work with children; however, I am getting paid to work with these children. I also believe that everyone deserves love, even if you have had a child prematurely or with someone and it didn’t work out. However, I firmly believe that God did promise a husband to me at 23. Therefore, anyone approaching me at THIS stage in life, cannot have a child. Hard no. More like “Fuck No” from the Bayang TikTok song.

Do not come in my dms with a child or children. I don’t indulge in baby mama drama and I probably already am pissed at you for even having the audacity to approach me.

Weak.

I don’t know when I became like this, but currently I want nothing more than to be left alone. I even deleted a few popular social media apps to escape the madness. I just want to scroll in peace.

I’m no longer a fan of finding a partner on social media. Approach me differently. I had a young man ask me for a book recommendation, as if my Instagram page doesn’t already feature several book recommendations. I do not like questions that I’ve already answered or that you can even Google.

I had a young man ask if we could work out together or if I could train him. WEAK. I get what you’re trying to do, but stop. I do not look cute when I’m working out. I work out for me. That’s anywhere from an hour to an hour and a half of MY alone time. Just me and my body. At my pace. I do not want company during that time. I’m also training my glutes 90% of the time. So young men if you want a booty come holla at me! How does that sound?

I also workout at home because we are IN THE MIDDLE OF A PANDEMIC (I will get to that). My home is my sanctuary and no I am not inviting a stranger, whose energy I cannot gauge via social media, into my home. No, I cannot train you. I’m not a personal trainer. Are you paying me? Because if I can charge you, then we can another conversation. Nonetheless, the exchange was very weak and was not thought through well.

The pandemic. Why are single young men so pressed to risk getting this virus. Now is not the time to invite a young woman to your house. You do not know her sir. She could have the virus; you could have the virus. I truly understand why STDs spread so fast. THINK! Now is not the time sneaky links and random meet ups. Quarantine and get to know someone for a couple weeks, then take them on a date at an outdoor location. Young men love the talking stage, now suddenly yall don’t want to talk? Also, stop having the first time you link with a young lady be at your house. Again, that is your sanctuary, all energies should not be allowed in your space and she could be a serial killer! Protect yourself King!

In the midst of ovulation, wet dreams, and horniness I am so turned off by the young men around me. I’m annoyed with the boldness, the audacity, the young men from college who suddenly are sliding.

Make it stop. I am not impressed.

Why oh why can’t someone step up and come correct? I’m in a space where I am comfortably single, but I would like to be impressed once in a while.

Actually, read one of the books I post and discuss what you thought about it. That will pique my interest- IF you actually have something profound to say.

Read one of my blogs! A concept! Discuss it with me. Actually, learn something about me. I give young men free game on who I am, and they never take it.

Discuss a bible verse with me. Send me a recipe. Do something out of the ordinary. I think I speak for every young woman on the planet when I say we are sick of “Wyd” and Heart Eye emojis.

Flo said it best: “These niggas weak” and I’m annoyed.

Dms officially closed.